“Shoutout to all my girls who are bigger than, taller than, or weigh more than their boyfriends and feel subconscious about it bc our society puts so much emphasis on girls needing to be Less Than boys in every single way, especially physically.
Never apologize for the space you occupy in this world.”
I’ve often heard in response to comments like that this that “Oh, no one’s saying women need to be less than men.”
But I ask you this: When’s the last time you saw someone shaming a dude on the subway or waiting at the DMV for spreading his legs all over the place?
And when’s the last time you saw someone shaming a woman — or talking about how awful fat people are — for not fitting neatly into a narrow airplane seat?
I feel like I’m starting to say this a lot on this blog, but fuck that. I’m done apologizing for the fact that my body doesn’t fit in the narrow standard of conventional beauty, and that it slightly inconveniences companies who make their profits catering to the standard and taking advantage of body shame to refuse to serve the rest of us.
My need for a larger seat in no way reflects on my value as a person, the same way the very thin woman sitting next to me on the airplane receives no brownie points from the universe for being able to tuck her feet beneath her in the same seat.